The Devil's Definition

Sometimes we have situations where we know we're right and we don't feel like we need to back off of the situation and then there are other times when we are pretty sure we're right and we STILL don't want to back off the situation, and then there are the even worst of times when we know for a fact that we are wrong but we don't want to grow up and step off the situation.

  In order for us to mature or to let others see us as maturing we need to learn to grow up even if we are right and hop off. Swallow whatever issue you are having and get over the fact that yes, even if you are right, you need to fold and allow the other person to think that they've won. If it means ending an ongoing problem then you need to back off. That is something of an issue for me, when I'm right then I'm right I am not backing off, backing down, stepping off or admitting to failure especially if failure isnt warranted for the moment. Sometimes it needs to be done.

  Mark Twain once said "You are a coward if you even seemed to have backed down from something you openly set out to do."

  In a way he is right, if you have said 'I am going to complete...' or 'I am going to change...' or even simply wanted to demand a different reaction from someone an backing down because you think it is too hard is being a coward, trying again, give it another try.

However, the definition of the word 'Reconciliation' from the Devil's Dictionary is a noun in form and it means : A suspension of hostilities. An armed truce for the purpose of digging up the dead.

  This definition has much more meaning than you think it would have. It means that when we reconcile or even have truce it is never over. The one person is always waiting for the other to strike again, or to come back with something else, something new. New ammunition to take you down with.

  So you choose: Mark Twain or the devils definition?

 Do you want to be a coward and back down and have a truce, to reconcile and always have things in the back of your mind wondering when they are going to hit you again or are you going to end things. Don't back down until you've won. Announce the fact that you are setting out to demolish even ammunition that your enemy has.

   Choose Wisely.

Forget to Tighten Your Mask

As we grow up we are taught by different people in our life how we are supposed to handle our emotions. That we should show our every emotion, that we should hold it all up inside so no one knows, that we should show only certain people our emotions. Which one are we supposed to choose? As we get older we figure out how to read our emotions, we decide who we can trust enough to share them with, who we can't share anything with, and which emotions are an okay thing to share with people.
  Some of us wear our emotions on our sleeves, others keep it locked up inside and sometimes we have a mixture of both. We share the emotions that we know people are expecting us to and other times we snap and we can't keep our mask as tight as we want it to and we can't keep our mask up all the way and then we lose it. We lose all of it, we let every single emotion running out of us all at once. We see red, we swear, we shake and after a while every little thing that happens; Every whisper, every rumor, every look sends us into panic mode, and sends us to anger in the speed of Moch 5 and we don't know what to do, we don't know how to handle ourselves any longer we don't know what we arent supposed to do and we don't know what is going to happen but in the long run it doesn't matter. In the long run we realize that we need to put our mask back on, get over it and tighten all our laces that keep our mask on and keep going.
 Sometimes people in our lives make a larger deal out of things then need be. We do things that people think we need to do during the current situation but Mark Twain hit the nail on the head when he said : "Any emotion, if it is sincere, is involuntary." When something in our life happens the first reaction that we have in the real emotion that we are feeling not the emotion that we think people want us to have. Sometimes we just need to let ourselves go and be involuntary.

Blow Your Own Sail.

We all have our favorite seasons. Mine are all but winter but i prefer the Summer and Spring, the new growth, sun and warm weather brings out the absolute best in me. Dressing wise and attitude wise. I tend to be smiling and laughing nonstop. The bright colors, amazing sun shine, cute clothes and free time outside are definately a heavy influence on my personality. Seasons aren't only in the weather however, we also have heavy seasons in our lives, which also feed into our personality, for good and for bad. The good we obviously approve of more but the bad also have a point. If we didnt have the bad there wouldn't be any growth and any strengthening of our weaker parts.
Jim Rohn once said: "You must take personal responsibility. You cannot chance the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of."
  Sometimes we forget that yes, even though we cant always control the season in our life that we are in at the moment whether we like it or not we can change ourselves. We can ake charge of how we react to the happenings that are going on around us. You can be the wind that blows your sails.
  We can control which way our boat goes because we - with our attitudes, perspectives and personalities - can change the direction we are heading in at the moment; so always remember when you don't like the season you are in you can do something about it.
        Blow you sail a different way.