Sometimes people come into our lives for different periods of time and some come in for shorter periods of time and some are there forever.
Sometimes those people that leave come back and evey once in a while we have the one mental patient of a person who we loves with all of ourselves who just keeps bouncing in and out but in the end always comes back.
Letting a person leave, kicking them out, fighting for them to stay and realizing that they weren't worth it, or them leaving for a time it is nice to reconnect with someone who meant alot to you.
Lately friends are difficult to come by for some people (myself included) and it is nice that just when we think everyone had gone and left you, never to come back someone pops back in. Then another, and another and another and before you know it you have friends again, more than you realize that all along there were people all surrounding you that love you and you weren't meant to have them in your life at that moment in time and it was meant to happen later on. Whether is be a few days, hours, weeks, or years to when you really wanted (or didnt want) them in your life that they are they and they are back and you missed them and it is nice to hear that they missed you too.
Someone once said "It's true that we don't know what we've got until it's gone but we also don't know what we've been missing until it shows up."
That is so true on so many levels. <3
Monday, February 27, 2012
Friday, February 24, 2012
Sometimes I Wonder...
At the moment I am sitting in my school building and I wonder if the people the I go to school with listen to themselves when they talk or if they hear a huge wooshing noise in their ears so they don't realize how ridiculous they sound...This leads me into this:
Do we listen to ourselves sometimes? When we get going on a rant, or venting, or complaining about every little nitpicky thing? Do we really hear ourselves? Yes, for the most part we 'hear' the noise of our voices coming out of our throats but do we really hear what we are saying, that's the question.
The saying Think Before You Speak or If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say Don't Say It At All comes to mind. We don't really listen to those old saying that our grandparenst or aunts and uncles or parents told us, do we? No, for the most part we don't.
Walt Disney once said "Whenever I go on a ride I think about what's wrong and how it can be improved." In a way that works with us, our thinking process, and the way we speak. If we took some time to think about what we were saying, instead of spitting the first thing that comes to our minds out of our mouth, we would be able to save ourselves alot of problems. If we thought about what is wrong with what we are saying then we would probably be able to solve our own problems without asking the opnion of other people and without overthinking things, if we just thought in the first place.
Like I said, sometimes I wonder what goes through our minds when we speak or when we are thinking. Do we stop and think about what are thinking about? Does that makes any sense? If we think about what we are spending most of our time thining about then maybe we wouldn't have so much drama, heartache, and lose of friends. Because, honestly, when we dont think before we speak we lose people. Whether the point of our speaking was to lose someone or whether it was just to voice our opinion we would be much better suited to think and go about things in a much more well managed and calm way then they way that most of us handle things...rushed, loud, and usually painful...Then there is also the opposite end of that spectrum but we'll talk about that later.
Do we listen to ourselves sometimes? When we get going on a rant, or venting, or complaining about every little nitpicky thing? Do we really hear ourselves? Yes, for the most part we 'hear' the noise of our voices coming out of our throats but do we really hear what we are saying, that's the question.
The saying Think Before You Speak or If You Don't Have Anything Nice To Say Don't Say It At All comes to mind. We don't really listen to those old saying that our grandparenst or aunts and uncles or parents told us, do we? No, for the most part we don't.
Walt Disney once said "Whenever I go on a ride I think about what's wrong and how it can be improved." In a way that works with us, our thinking process, and the way we speak. If we took some time to think about what we were saying, instead of spitting the first thing that comes to our minds out of our mouth, we would be able to save ourselves alot of problems. If we thought about what is wrong with what we are saying then we would probably be able to solve our own problems without asking the opnion of other people and without overthinking things, if we just thought in the first place.
Like I said, sometimes I wonder what goes through our minds when we speak or when we are thinking. Do we stop and think about what are thinking about? Does that makes any sense? If we think about what we are spending most of our time thining about then maybe we wouldn't have so much drama, heartache, and lose of friends. Because, honestly, when we dont think before we speak we lose people. Whether the point of our speaking was to lose someone or whether it was just to voice our opinion we would be much better suited to think and go about things in a much more well managed and calm way then they way that most of us handle things...rushed, loud, and usually painful...Then there is also the opposite end of that spectrum but we'll talk about that later.
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Swallow it...just don't choke
Sometimes, even though we feel we know best and we know what we need to do to get anywhere and everywhere in our lives there is one thing we need to do: Learn to swallow our pride.
Yes, it hurts. Yes, it totally sucks. Yes, sometimes it's hard and we choke. In the end though, swallowing our pride can help our situation.
Listening to our heart is the most important thing we can remember to do, but also we need to listen to those around us who love us. The true friends, the family, the people who mean the world to us.
During a situation you can have multiple parties of people telling us different things...Which do we listen to? For the most part, if we sit down and we think of what we need to do we can figure it out and decide what to do on our own. At other times though we need to sit down, think about it, and listen to those around us to help guide us in the right direction.
When we listen to someone it can be one of the worst thing to admit that they were right and we were yet again wrong. Honestly, it sucks to admit that someone else is always right about us but sometimes it needs to happen and they need to be right about us. It can be infuriating and aggrivating and down right infuriating to admit that the best friend, the parent, that one special teacher, that group of friend whoever it may be is right. It can be horrible but we need to Swallow It...our pride that is. We just need to learn not to Choke On It...
That is a skill that takes years, a million situations, but only one person to come to terms that those people are right because they are looking out for us and loving us. Don't be angry be grateful and love them back.
So remember, when it comes to pride: Just swallow it, don't choke on it.
Yes, it hurts. Yes, it totally sucks. Yes, sometimes it's hard and we choke. In the end though, swallowing our pride can help our situation.
Listening to our heart is the most important thing we can remember to do, but also we need to listen to those around us who love us. The true friends, the family, the people who mean the world to us.
During a situation you can have multiple parties of people telling us different things...Which do we listen to? For the most part, if we sit down and we think of what we need to do we can figure it out and decide what to do on our own. At other times though we need to sit down, think about it, and listen to those around us to help guide us in the right direction.
When we listen to someone it can be one of the worst thing to admit that they were right and we were yet again wrong. Honestly, it sucks to admit that someone else is always right about us but sometimes it needs to happen and they need to be right about us. It can be infuriating and aggrivating and down right infuriating to admit that the best friend, the parent, that one special teacher, that group of friend whoever it may be is right. It can be horrible but we need to Swallow It...our pride that is. We just need to learn not to Choke On It...
That is a skill that takes years, a million situations, but only one person to come to terms that those people are right because they are looking out for us and loving us. Don't be angry be grateful and love them back.
So remember, when it comes to pride: Just swallow it, don't choke on it.
Monday, February 20, 2012
Love, Actually.
As a friend what is the one thing you want for your best friend? You want them to be happy, right? You want their happiness to come before yours, even if that means sacrificing something yourself, as long as your best friend is happy for the most part you are content, correct?
Hypathetically speaking say your best friend falls for someone, say you don't like that person one hundred percent, or at all for that matter. Not for any specific reason you just arent a fan, but you see the way you he/she makes him/her light up when they talk about them or think about them or even pretend to think about possibly mentioning a memory between them. Either way, whatever the scenerio, you can tell how much they mean to your friend. What happens? You are supportive, you do not however threaten to leave them or tell their parents what is going on before the person has a chance to themselves.
When you love someone, friend or more than a friend you put their happiness before your own and seeing them happy makes you happy. When someone means something to you, you put their happiness before yours. If you choose to put yourself before them then maybe you need to think about your definition of a friend and your ideas of how your friendship is to them.
As Harold H Glasow once said "A true friend never gets in your way unless you are going down."
In friendship, a true friend doesnt get in ones way when they are going for something, something they need to do or something they want with all of their heart, they stand by them and they support them they don't block the way. A friend doesnt block the way unless they are catching as you are falling flat on your face.
Remember that next time you think of friendship, as you think of your best friend, as you think of you yourself as friend. Do you get in your friends way, do you stop them from doing things (*disclaimer: stopping them from doing something to hurt themselves, no matter how much they want to do it, doesnt count as getting in their way negatively*), do you stop them from going after what they want. If you do any of the above, check yourself because maybe you arent being who you need to be.
Concerning your friends think about the same questions: Do they stop you from doing things, do they twist things so it benefits them, do they get in your way. If so maybe you are using them as crutch because you think you can't do any better.
Or maybe you just need to spellcheck your version of True Friendship.
Hypathetically speaking say your best friend falls for someone, say you don't like that person one hundred percent, or at all for that matter. Not for any specific reason you just arent a fan, but you see the way you he/she makes him/her light up when they talk about them or think about them or even pretend to think about possibly mentioning a memory between them. Either way, whatever the scenerio, you can tell how much they mean to your friend. What happens? You are supportive, you do not however threaten to leave them or tell their parents what is going on before the person has a chance to themselves.
When you love someone, friend or more than a friend you put their happiness before your own and seeing them happy makes you happy. When someone means something to you, you put their happiness before yours. If you choose to put yourself before them then maybe you need to think about your definition of a friend and your ideas of how your friendship is to them.
As Harold H Glasow once said "A true friend never gets in your way unless you are going down."
In friendship, a true friend doesnt get in ones way when they are going for something, something they need to do or something they want with all of their heart, they stand by them and they support them they don't block the way. A friend doesnt block the way unless they are catching as you are falling flat on your face.
Remember that next time you think of friendship, as you think of your best friend, as you think of you yourself as friend. Do you get in your friends way, do you stop them from doing things (*disclaimer: stopping them from doing something to hurt themselves, no matter how much they want to do it, doesnt count as getting in their way negatively*), do you stop them from going after what they want. If you do any of the above, check yourself because maybe you arent being who you need to be.
Concerning your friends think about the same questions: Do they stop you from doing things, do they twist things so it benefits them, do they get in your way. If so maybe you are using them as crutch because you think you can't do any better.
Or maybe you just need to spellcheck your version of True Friendship.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Losing Your Light...
The worst thing that could possibly happen is losing the light in your eyes when the eyes are the window to your soul. You laugh, but for some people their eyes are how their true emotions are noticed. By those people who know them but don't know them super well a 'what's wrong?' with a half hearted answer of 'nothing, I'm just tired' will do. But for those people who really know you, like know that your about to think about possibly sneezing before your body ever registers it kind of knows you, your eyes are their best weapon toward you. My own eyes?! You ask, horrifEYED. Yes, your own eyes. They will use your eyes against you and the conversation you just had with someone who kind of knows you, that you were able to away with a false answer doesn't go the same.
It goes something like this. "What's wrong?" "Nothing, I'm just tired." *friend stares intently into your eyes* "What did he/she do?" And your friends know exactly what is going on, or have a roughly constructed idea of what is going on, simply by glancing into your eyes for a moment or two.
The worst thing that could happen is for you to lose your light in your eyes. Now, if you have friends that don't pay attention to your eyes or you never had bright eyes to begin with, don't sweat it! They won't notice, but that also means you most likely won't notice; which is not always a good thing. On the other hand, if you have friends that pay acute attention to your eyes and you do carry your emotions on your sleeve and you every thought whether it is heartbreak, happiness, excitment, fear, exhaustion, or loss of hope registers in your eyes You. Are. Screwed. (I happen to be one of those people)
It doesn't matter whether you say you are fine, and you actually THINK and BELIEVE you are fine. Once your friends get a glance at your eyes, it is ALL OVER! They will know almost immediately whether something is wrong with you, whether they know what it is right away, well that all depends on the friend. My best friend, will give me one chance to explain whats wrong and then when I lie and say 'I'm fine' she turns to the eyes and decides on her own.
(There will be a point to this soon)
When you lose your light, sometimes even you don't realize it. You need to be reignited, sometimes it takes an afternoon, a weekend, a nap, or a few weeks. Either way you need to be reignited, something the flame that comes back in them is dim compared to previous flames, sometimes the flame comes back brighter, and sometimes it takes the same person who blew out the flame to reignite it. More often than not, that is the case, but sometimes you need to carry your own lighter. Find things that make smile, a favorite memory, picture, or band. Something that you share with friends or just with yourself.
But never let yourself go dark for long, the longer you're dark the colder it gets and the harder it is get lit up again. For yourself, not for your friends, or that special someone only for yourself don't let yourself lose you light because your light is part of yourself. If you don't believe me, go and look in the mirror, do you eyes look dull or do you need some hot volunteer firemen to keep the inferno in your eyes under control?
;D
It goes something like this. "What's wrong?" "Nothing, I'm just tired." *friend stares intently into your eyes* "What did he/she do?" And your friends know exactly what is going on, or have a roughly constructed idea of what is going on, simply by glancing into your eyes for a moment or two.
The worst thing that could happen is for you to lose your light in your eyes. Now, if you have friends that don't pay attention to your eyes or you never had bright eyes to begin with, don't sweat it! They won't notice, but that also means you most likely won't notice; which is not always a good thing. On the other hand, if you have friends that pay acute attention to your eyes and you do carry your emotions on your sleeve and you every thought whether it is heartbreak, happiness, excitment, fear, exhaustion, or loss of hope registers in your eyes You. Are. Screwed. (I happen to be one of those people)
It doesn't matter whether you say you are fine, and you actually THINK and BELIEVE you are fine. Once your friends get a glance at your eyes, it is ALL OVER! They will know almost immediately whether something is wrong with you, whether they know what it is right away, well that all depends on the friend. My best friend, will give me one chance to explain whats wrong and then when I lie and say 'I'm fine' she turns to the eyes and decides on her own.
(There will be a point to this soon)
When you lose your light, sometimes even you don't realize it. You need to be reignited, sometimes it takes an afternoon, a weekend, a nap, or a few weeks. Either way you need to be reignited, something the flame that comes back in them is dim compared to previous flames, sometimes the flame comes back brighter, and sometimes it takes the same person who blew out the flame to reignite it. More often than not, that is the case, but sometimes you need to carry your own lighter. Find things that make smile, a favorite memory, picture, or band. Something that you share with friends or just with yourself.
But never let yourself go dark for long, the longer you're dark the colder it gets and the harder it is get lit up again. For yourself, not for your friends, or that special someone only for yourself don't let yourself lose you light because your light is part of yourself. If you don't believe me, go and look in the mirror, do you eyes look dull or do you need some hot volunteer firemen to keep the inferno in your eyes under control?
;D
Saturday, February 18, 2012
Honestly...
We are taught as children that: Honesty is the best policy. That still rings true throughout your entire life. The fact that sharing your feelings, whether you are afraid or worried to always makes you feel better in the end; and that it is the only way to keep yourself sane.
Holding your feelings in, or holding in the truth about something that is going on will get you nowhere except hurt and lost. No matter what, it's a circle of life type deal. In the end the best way to be able to move on is to tell the people that need to know. Whether you want to or not it is always best to tell them what is happening. You may think that they will act one way when in fact they will act in a completely different matter and you had no clue that would happen.
If we don't share what is happening to us, whether we are having the time of our life or our life is a living hell at the moment if you don't share with your friends they can't possibly protect you or rejoice in you having the best moments of your life.
As Salvador Dali said "Drawing is the honesty of art. There is possibility of cheating. It's either good or bad." This is true with our emotions too. Emotions are the 'drawing' of the human mind. Our emotions are either good or bad, we share them and the peoples reactions around us are good or bad. If they are good then that is spectacular but if they are bad then we heal and move on. There is no changing that.
As my father says "they are just emotions. We have them and we move on." which is also very true. We have emotions, we share them and we either fix them and move on or we stay stuck in them but sooner or later we must in fact move on or we would be stuck in the same pattern for the rest of our lives.
You choose, Honesty and moving on in life or not and staying stuck? But remember, usually the people around us will react totally different than the way we imagine. Usually, it turns out for the better :]
Holding your feelings in, or holding in the truth about something that is going on will get you nowhere except hurt and lost. No matter what, it's a circle of life type deal. In the end the best way to be able to move on is to tell the people that need to know. Whether you want to or not it is always best to tell them what is happening. You may think that they will act one way when in fact they will act in a completely different matter and you had no clue that would happen.
If we don't share what is happening to us, whether we are having the time of our life or our life is a living hell at the moment if you don't share with your friends they can't possibly protect you or rejoice in you having the best moments of your life.
As Salvador Dali said "Drawing is the honesty of art. There is possibility of cheating. It's either good or bad." This is true with our emotions too. Emotions are the 'drawing' of the human mind. Our emotions are either good or bad, we share them and the peoples reactions around us are good or bad. If they are good then that is spectacular but if they are bad then we heal and move on. There is no changing that.
As my father says "they are just emotions. We have them and we move on." which is also very true. We have emotions, we share them and we either fix them and move on or we stay stuck in them but sooner or later we must in fact move on or we would be stuck in the same pattern for the rest of our lives.
You choose, Honesty and moving on in life or not and staying stuck? But remember, usually the people around us will react totally different than the way we imagine. Usually, it turns out for the better :]
Friday, February 10, 2012
Fight or Be Destoyed...But Always Remember You Have Friends...
Not the catchiest title I've ever had, I know. This isn't about catchy though, this is about stating something that is completely and totally true. Either fight for your right as a human being or let your soul be crushed and destroyed beyond all repair. Sometimes it takes a little while to figure out that, yes you are having some problems but number one and the most overused yet still true thing: someone always has it worse and number two: you always have people there for you even if sometimes you don't realize it at first and they would give their lives to make sure that you aren't crushed and destroyed because they love you too much to stand by and see that happen whether you have the energy to stop it yourself or not...
Sometimes it takes getting to 'The Point Of No Return' to make you realize that you have made it through this, you'd like to see what else life can throw at you because if you've handled this then you can handle anything! You feel like until something else hits you and you at that point need your friends to remind you that you can make it through this just as well or even easier than you did with your Rock Bottom T.P.O.N.R. stage and then you realize that as hard as things can get you can make it through when you have a good force backing you up.
Friends are what can make your life worthwhile, as painful as relationships can be sometimes, they take time to form, grow, and then settle into a comfortable pattern, often times it takes longer for that process to happen then we wish it too, but the people we are waiting for are completely and totally worth the wait so we don't mind waiting.
As the very wise grandmother character said in a favorite movie of mine "There will be plenty of people rooting for you to fail...that's what makes it so fun." When you realize that sometimes they win the battle but in the long run you'll win the war it makes it a lot more fun to watch then make fools of themselves while you decide not to care what they think or what they are doing but simply being yourself and having a fun time with your friends. Having a blast watch the people who have made it their sole mission in their lives to make your life a living hell fail miserably while they think they are the cats meow and you and everyone watching them knows they are nothing but pathetic, messed up, little people who need to hurt others to make themselves feel good.
Then there is that moment when you realize your friends were right all along and those people are worthless and even if you did get when you thought you needed to be like them you know that you'd never stoop to their level of low to get it and that makes you feel good. And sometimes feeling good about yourself can bring a smile to your face and help you get through things. Day by Day.
Sometimes it takes getting to 'The Point Of No Return' to make you realize that you have made it through this, you'd like to see what else life can throw at you because if you've handled this then you can handle anything! You feel like until something else hits you and you at that point need your friends to remind you that you can make it through this just as well or even easier than you did with your Rock Bottom T.P.O.N.R. stage and then you realize that as hard as things can get you can make it through when you have a good force backing you up.
Friends are what can make your life worthwhile, as painful as relationships can be sometimes, they take time to form, grow, and then settle into a comfortable pattern, often times it takes longer for that process to happen then we wish it too, but the people we are waiting for are completely and totally worth the wait so we don't mind waiting.
As the very wise grandmother character said in a favorite movie of mine "There will be plenty of people rooting for you to fail...that's what makes it so fun." When you realize that sometimes they win the battle but in the long run you'll win the war it makes it a lot more fun to watch then make fools of themselves while you decide not to care what they think or what they are doing but simply being yourself and having a fun time with your friends. Having a blast watch the people who have made it their sole mission in their lives to make your life a living hell fail miserably while they think they are the cats meow and you and everyone watching them knows they are nothing but pathetic, messed up, little people who need to hurt others to make themselves feel good.
Then there is that moment when you realize your friends were right all along and those people are worthless and even if you did get when you thought you needed to be like them you know that you'd never stoop to their level of low to get it and that makes you feel good. And sometimes feeling good about yourself can bring a smile to your face and help you get through things. Day by Day.
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