When you love someone you want to do everything in your power to make the smile, to keep them safe, assure that they will be in as little pain as humanly possibly. We do this so much sometimes it can come off as overbearing, needy, or nosey; when in reality you just want to make sure you're doing your best to make them comfortable and make their life easier for them.
Sooner or later you need to learn to back off, not completely but you need to switch and transition to another roll in their life. Not the protector who keeps everything from touching them but the healer, when something happens you are their to help them feel better, you're there to help them breathe and heal from whatever experience just happened.
Just thinking about that is hard isn't it? Thinking about not being with them to keep them safe or not say something when you know exactly what is going on and they have no clue. It's hard to think 'but when he finds out this is going to crush him, and then he is going to hate me because i knew the entire time and I didn't tell him.' it's excruciating when those thoughts come in - trust me - but you have to overcome those thoughts and understand that they NEED to find out on their own, they absolutely have to go throught this and understand it in their own time and you don't have to worry about them hating you because you did things the way you did them because they needed this. They needed it to grow up, mature and learn to handle these things on their own otherwise they won't know how to handle things if you aren't around or you can't be around when they need you. They won't hate you because you were there for them the entire time and you will continue to be there if they want you.
Yes, it is still a painful thought that the
