We are taught as children that: Honesty is the best policy. That still rings true throughout your entire life. The fact that sharing your feelings, whether you are afraid or worried to always makes you feel better in the end; and that it is the only way to keep yourself sane.
Holding your feelings in, or holding in the truth about something that is going on will get you nowhere except hurt and lost. No matter what, it's a circle of life type deal. In the end the best way to be able to move on is to tell the people that need to know. Whether you want to or not it is always best to tell them what is happening. You may think that they will act one way when in fact they will act in a completely different matter and you had no clue that would happen.
If we don't share what is happening to us, whether we are having the time of our life or our life is a living hell at the moment if you don't share with your friends they can't possibly protect you or rejoice in you having the best moments of your life.
As Salvador Dali said "Drawing is the honesty of art. There is possibility of cheating. It's either good or bad." This is true with our emotions too. Emotions are the 'drawing' of the human mind. Our emotions are either good or bad, we share them and the peoples reactions around us are good or bad. If they are good then that is spectacular but if they are bad then we heal and move on. There is no changing that.
As my father says "they are just emotions. We have them and we move on." which is also very true. We have emotions, we share them and we either fix them and move on or we stay stuck in them but sooner or later we must in fact move on or we would be stuck in the same pattern for the rest of our lives.
You choose, Honesty and moving on in life or not and staying stuck? But remember, usually the people around us will react totally different than the way we imagine. Usually, it turns out for the better :]
Sometimes, when we simply share the emotions, we have not been honest about their root. And THAT'S where the truest friendships do us the most good, don't you think? I can say I am feeling down but it will pass. The friends who do us the most good will then ask, "Okay, but can I help you with whatever caused you to feel this way?"
ReplyDeleteHow lucky we are to have even ONE person in our lives who do that.